How to be more grateful for other people’s success

NOTE: This post is tailored towards some of the teachings of the Law of Attraction and Abraham Hicks. If things like upstream and downstream don’t make sense to you, go listen to some Abraham Hicks material on Youtube here  first and then come back here.

Are you having upstream thoughts? Perhaps about someone else doing better than you? Or having more than you? Feelings of jealousy, contempt, revenge, etc?

A few ideas to get you facing more downstream…

Accept that the feeling exists within you

Working on your well-being is your spiritual work. Part of that work is recognizing that good and bad feelings exist. Just recognize them within you first. That’s all at this early stage. Recognition and awareness are the first steps in changing anything.

Every emotion has some use in your escrow

It’s OK to feel what you feel. Really it is. Now, it’s not good forever! Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want you to think that negative, debilitating emotions like the ones you feel, are OK. They are not in the long run. But I can give you some good news about them: they help to build a faster flowing river, even the river you are currently upstream on.

Abraham Hicks says…any emotion, felt strongly makes your river flow faster and inserts more into your vibrational escrow. When you are in the wrong vibration, you are building a vibrational escrow.. an account of energy. Once you turn downstream, that same account becomes available to you to draw and benefit from.

Know that a crazy-loop is forming

The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you feel. So if you feel a negative emotion, you get more of that vibration in your life. For example, someone else, carrying the same vibe can show up. Or an event manifests itself that confirms more of how you feel. Or more negative things happen to you. Have you ever had a friend that always stubs their toe, or gets into car accidents? Yep, that’s the Law of Attraction. What’s really freaky though is that if you aren’t careful, you might start to see the world through that clouded lense. The negative emotions build up resonance and momentum and the next thing you know, everything is headed in the wrong direction. Thankfully, however, the Law of Attraction is universal. It applies to positive OR negative emotions. You get to choose.

Feelings are like a shooting star: the more you look for them, the more they show up.

Realize it’s temporal nature

It’s pretty difficult to feel something all the time. Joy, happiness, sadness, depression, fear.. all these and more are just moments in your life. Feelings get triggered in you by life events, people, new information, and everything else you interact with throughout your life. Feelings enter and leave as you allow them to. They exist for a few minutes, hours, or days, and then dissipate over time as your world changes. Feelings will leave in order to make room for the next feeling entering your awareness. When you feel a bad emotion, just say to yourself.. “this too will soon pass” and remember that just around the corner, something new will enter.

Become the observer and not the participant

This will take some creative work on your part. It may be useful to look at yourself as someone else might see you. Not to judge or make a comment, but simply to see yourself dealing with these feelings from an observer’s point of view. Will you hold that emotion for a long time? Is there a better emotion you could feel? Don’t you know that the other person has been through so much in life? If you can practice this technique it will help you move more quickly from jealousy, to observation, to non-reaction, the next time the same emotion comes up.

Someone else feels the same about you

Someone is jealous of you right now.

OK, I’m taking a big leap stating that, but it COULD be true. Just think about that for a second. Someone else, in some other dimension of your life, feels a negative emotion towards you. They think you have this wonderful joy, freedom, love, money, etc, which they don’t have.

When you realize this, your first reaction may be “I don’t care what anyone else feels about me.” Great. Good for you. Guess what? You know that that person YOU feel jealous about? They don’t care either.

You don’t get to have jealousy/revenge/contempt all on your own. Someone else gets to have it too. And in every case, the target of that emotion probably doesn’t care all that much.

You will never know their story. You are not them.

Lets work on a specific type of feeling for the moment: jealousy. Let’s say you feel jealousy, an upstream emotion, about someone. From your point of view, they have more abundance than you (health, love, joy, etc). Let’s say that’s true. From your incomplete point of view, they have more. Let’s remember one important thing: you are not them. Your story of them is only based on what they LET you see. You will never know their full emotional and detailed story. Do you know if they faced horrific abuse, suicidal feelings, heart break, theft, murder of someone close to them? Do you? Do you know for sure? Definitely not. You will never know everything about them. And more importantly, you will never know what they FELT during their dark days.

Once you realize we are all on journey, and everyone will get what they ask for in this life, jealousy serves no purpose except to make you feel bad. So what if someone has something you don’t have. You can’t make them have less, so that you feel better can you?

Let their blessings be a guide

I used to feel a lot of jealousy and contempt towards others during a recent difficult stage of life. I felt very much that others were having so much abundance and I wasn’t. And with some recent personal work, a lot of introspection, and finally, working on my own joy, I came to a realization that I was looking at things all the wrong way. Happy, joyful people are a blessing, not a restriction. They are here to bring me good vibrations, not to drag me down. Happy people are a blessing, because they are sharing love and light, not to watch me drown while they stare down at me, but to help me find the path back to where they are, so that we can all have one big party. The world is acting to inspire me, not to laugh at me.

When you see something that you want, but don’t have yet, realize that it’s god/source/universe giving you emotional deposits for your vortex. Each good thing you see is a new emotion you get to feel and the more you see it, the more you will manifest it in your world.

The result of letting go is Compassion, and later, Love and Gratitude

The next time you feel negative emotions towards someone, let it go. Run the story in your head.. “I don’t know what they went through..” and then.. “They are a light bulb, showing me the way.. ” and then, if you can.. “I love what they represent in my life. Thank you god/universe/source for bringing so much joy into my life…” See them as a blessing, not a curse.

Nowadays, when I see others, I don’t hate them, I feel great love for them. I pray that they don’t suffer in their journey. I pray that they don’t experience the suffering that I felt. I want them to have more joy and abundance so that I can get that in return. I actively go look for happy people cause I can take advantage of their emotion in my own vortex.

When I first made this shift about other people’s success, at first I felt compassion. But soon after, I quickly moved to Love. And more recently, gratitude. Gratitude that I’m getting to see more positive emotions in my journey. Like a rocket ship accelerating off the launch pad, each new emotion and thing, replicating and inserting itself into my own life into some future moment in time.

(In the picture above: The monkey does not hate the bird cause it can fly, and he cannot)

God doesn’t play favors…

With a friend on the phone…
 
So I’m trying to show a friend Hicks… and I send a few Youtube videos.. and give them a week and then ask if they watched…they tell me they aren’t ready cause it scares them….They say..”WHO is Abraham????” I respond.. “Well I don’t know either exactly, and I don’t worry about it all that much.. there is just good advice about happiness there.. thats why I gave it to you cause its what I use.”…Nope..it doesn’t help… they aren’t ready…they make excuses and say it scares them or that they think I’m controlling them.
 
So I change the subject and ask how their day is going.. small talk… then at one point the friend says “You know, you are so blessed.. you always get parking spots and things aren’t hard for you.. your life is so easy! Not like me.. everything is so hard!”.. and I say once again.. “Life is not supposed to be difficult or painful.. at least not all the time.. life is supposed to be mostly joy”
 
I just shake my head
 
Moral of the story.. even your closest friends can SEE the laws unfolding right before their eyes in your life.. and never clue in .. its not some bonus blessings or a blessings lottery…or God/source punishing them. Its them. God/source doesn’t play favors. We all get an equal share.
 
“If source can’t make them see, what makes you think you can?” – AH

Mooji – Speaker, Author, Teacher

A recent discovery you might enjoy…Moojiji

“When you truly find love for others inside your heart, it is so empowering, so beautiful, because you are seeing with the eyes of God. There’s no selfishness there. Selfishness did not create this world. A great love and generosity did.”

https://www.youtube.com/user/Moojiji

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mooji

http://mooji.tv/

 

Get out of the GOOP

Get out of the GOOP (good opinions of other people):
 
It’s not that they don’t want to make you feel good (as much as they love you, they probably don’t if they really had to think about it). It’s actually more about you. If you rely on others, you can never truly find source/vortex/god, assuming you want to that is.
 
Why is GOOP bad? Because you always see others like an “air compressor”, pumping you up when your “tire pressure” is low. Looking around for someone else to “pump up” your state, makes you reliant on something outside yourself. It makes you weak and ineffective and stops you from really looking at yourself.
 
LESSON: every time you look outside, you simultaneously miss an opportunity of looking inside.
 
Once you aren’t attached to the opinion of others, you can begin look within yourself for source/god/vibration/vortex. It’s a beautiful way to live. Knowing that something bigger than you (or anyone else) is within you, working for you. As you go deeper into this mindset you reach a new state of awareness.
 
From this new vantage point, you will start to see other people as they are: beings on their own journey. You will watch others passively with a kind of beautiful detachment, enjoying their entire presence, and yet not being involved in it. You can appreciate them more fully and that in turns brings you closer to alignment and more downstream.
 
If you find it hard to make this shift, a simple strategy is just reaching the awareness that there is an opportunity cost every time you look for GOOP: a moment of time to find source within yourself.
 
#nomoregoop

Fixing that one area of your life you can’t seem to get right

Funny how sometimes, the teacher becomes the student, almost instantaneously..

I was commenting on someone’s Facebook post..

For a long time I’ve been trying to manifest financial abundance for freedom, and to be honest I have really tried, but I’m getting nowhere, I’m so frustrated with the whole thing as now I just feel depressed about not being able to manifest this, I want it and I know I deserve it so what’s the deal? Where do I go from here. I’m no quitter but right now I feel tired and fed up

 

And so I decided to respond in my usual style.. to just type instinctively without judgement..

“Reach calm waters. It might mean doing something outside of this manifest so that you are at a point of peace within yourself. Its not to give up, or to forget about it for a moment. Any kind of good energy helps. Get out of “tired and fed up” mode and into something happy and fun and higher vibration somewhere else.. health.. love.. happiness..food.. friends.. hobbies.. once u reach higher vibration states.. open up slowly to the manifest you seek.. talk to it from joy and smiles and love.. approaching it from pain probably isn’t doing it any good.”

The moment I hit post.. I suddenly realized that I could use that same advice for myself.. reach calm waters. In fact, anybody could. Can you really solve a problem if it’s at the point of frustration? Does working harder and harder get you anywhere? Perhaps you need a break from the challenge. A break to go find joy and happiness elsewhere and then from that happier vibration, tackle the problem once again with a fresh perspective.

Here is a quick step strategy you might try if you have reached frustrated/broken/depressed:

  1. Put  “the problem” on hold. Not forever.. just long enough for a mini-vacation.. It might be an hour, a day, a week, or a month. It might mean being away from someone temporarily. You get to decide how long the vacation is for.
  2. Go find some happy places in your life and promise yourself not to think of “the problem”. Just look for joy.
  3. Once you reach joy, try to remember the feeling.. capture it.. Write down what it feels like. Take photos.. record a video
  4. Once the vacation is over.. start with a blank sheet of paper, metaphorically speaking. Target the problem again, but do it a bit differently. At first, the instinct will be to go back into the lower vibration and energy pattern from before. It’s natural. But the moment you sense yourself easing into that pain, go and grab that happy moment you captured before. Mirror it. Make the happy moment indistinguishable from “the problem”. See “the problem” as solved. See it as done. See it as if you took a snapshot, just like your other happy moment.

By doing the above exercise, you are re-patterning and re-writing the story of “the problem”. You are giving yourself a chance to see “the problem” as solved and completed. You are able to see beyond the current difficulty, and see the finished outcome with a happier and more energetic vibe, and hopefully, will be able to de-construct the end result into an action plan you can follow now.

An example…

Let’s have a look at an example. I have two “problems” I’m dealing with right now. Relationships, and good health. My health is fine, I just don’t look good and feel good in my own skin. I want to look a lot better.  I want to be able to take my shirt off on a beach and not feel like everyone is looking at me. I have definitely reached the stage of frustration and giving up.

Until writing this post, I have never considered that there is an energetic component to it.  That from the happy places in my life (finance, hobbies, work to some degree) I’m feeling pretty darn content and satisfied that it’s going to be fine. Why can’t I use the same higher vibration to solve this other thing? Yeah!  Why not? Of course I can!

Today for the first time, in regards to health, I am picturing the end result of fitness in a higher and happier vibration version of me. I see myself fit AND smiling and laughing.. (how I FEEL is the key to the answer), I can now more clearly see a path. Some dedication to a daily regimen is all I need. A walk or jog. Perhaps a change in my pantry (removing temptations) as well. If I can do that, and know the end reward is the same happy feeling I get playing snooker, or writing on my blog, then I can lose the weight and look fit.

I can do this!

Takeaway…

See the future version of yourself visually AND emotionally. Attach a happy/proud/successful/loving emotion to that future picture. The emotional component of that future version of you is crucial.

Emotions attached to a goal/dream/desire allow them to reach deep into your consciousness and transform you. Once you see the future version of yourself in a higher vibration, you can then de-construct from that place into the present circumstances, and can then see a way out.

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30 days of Lily pads

“First there is just one lily pad in a corner of the pond. But every day the number of lily pads doubles. It takes 30 days to fill the pond, but for the first 28 days, no one even notices. Suddenly, on the 29th day, the pond is half full of lily pads and the villagers become concerned. But by this time there is little that can be done. The next day their worst fears have come true. That’s why environmental dangers are so worrisome, especially those that follow reinforcing patterns. By the time the problem is noticed, it may be too late. Extinctions of species often follow patterns of slow, gradual accelerating decline over long time periods, then rapidly collapse. So do the extinctions of corporations.”

Book: The Fifth Discipline by Peter Senge

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Stress-induced Alzheimers and Dimentia

My dad has Alzheimer’s and is in a nursing home now. It’s pains me every day knowing he is there, but there really isn’t much I can do about it. I tried everything I could to keep him at home, but ultimately, the choice was taken out of our hands when he got Shingles and had to be hospitalized earlier this year. From the hospital, we decided to put him in nursing care. He fell several times at home and was acting erratically. He would wake up in the middle of the night and start wandering around. Once he got sick, we decided it was best to have professionals take care of him. That probably saved his life.

When I look back at it, I know that stress was a major contributing factor to his condition. 2008/2009 was a particularly stressful year for my parents (and me too). They ran into major financial troubles and family issues (which I won’t go into out of respect for those involved). I was unemployed and happened to be the only one that could provide a solution, so I decided to care for them full time. Once he was diagnosed in 2009 with this disease, I learned everything I could about Alzheimers. I came to the conclusion that stress was a major contributing factor. My dad was never very good with handling stress and anxiety anyways.

To make sure it never happens to me, I started looking for a different approach to life and found a lot of new ideas I could incorporate – meditation, living in the present, doing what you love, smiling regardless of the outcome, getting out of GOOP (good opinions of other people) and more.

I have a much better balance to life now. Do I have everything I want? Not yet, but I approach things differently now. And I’m mindful of stress-inducing people and situations. I don’t avoid stress – you never can. I just react differently to it now.

If you have aging parents, please don’t hand them life changing stressful life changes. Everyone has a good chance of getting Alzheimers and I can tell you from first hand experience that the primary issue in Alzheimers stems from diet. Inflammation inducing foods like non-organic meats, toxins, oils, and unrefined sugars and wheat are the major culprits. I don’t drink pop, don’t use oil in cooking, and remove stressful people wherever I can.

I know our parents are supposed to teach us and show us the way. I just never expected to learn it like this.