Get out of the GOOP (good opinions of other people):
It’s not that they don’t want to make you feel good (as much as they love you, they probably don’t if they really had to think about it). It’s actually more about you. If you rely on others, you can never truly find source/vortex/god, assuming you want to that is.
Why is GOOP bad? Because you always see others like an “air compressor”, pumping you up when your “tire pressure” is low. Looking around for someone else to “pump up” your state, makes you reliant on something outside yourself. It makes you weak and ineffective and stops you from really looking at yourself.
LESSON: every time you look outside, you simultaneously miss an opportunity of looking inside.
Once you aren’t attached to the opinion of others, you can begin look within yourself for source/god/vibration/vortex. It’s a beautiful way to live. Knowing that something bigger than you (or anyone else) is within you, working for you. As you go deeper into this mindset you reach a new state of awareness.
From this new vantage point, you will start to see other people as they are: beings on their own journey. You will watch others passively with a kind of beautiful detachment, enjoying their entire presence, and yet not being involved in it. You can appreciate them more fully and that in turns brings you closer to alignment and more downstream.
If you find it hard to make this shift, a simple strategy is just reaching the awareness that there is an opportunity cost every time you look for GOOP: a moment of time to find source within yourself.