How to find your “purpose” quickly

Looking for Purpose is like looking for yesterday’s shadow. You know it’s there, but you will never find it.

Recently, a friend enlightened me on a quote, “Hands that help are holier than lips that pray”. When I heard it, I laughed it off. You mean I’m supposed to serve others? How crazy is that? What about MY needs? What about MY purpose? What about MY dreams?

After many months looking for it and not finding this ever-elusive shadow, I tried an experiment. I gave up looking. I said to myself “If I stop looking for one, what happens?” Nothing. I live. Instead of looking for a purpose (something that sooths my ego and gives me a reason to be here), I will stop looking and become a vessel for god’s purpose. I will let god handle purpose, and I will handle the work.

As a business owner, I know that if I don’t help my clients, and my audience, I won’t be successful. Jim Rohn, a famous business leader and one of my mentors, once said, “Service to others leads to greatness”. I have heard it many times, but I didn’t really clue in until recently.

I’m convinced now, that purpose is created in the work we do. We can serve others in many ways. Volunteer, run a business, invent solutions, answer our clients and customer concerns, keep a family together, serve a husband or wife in their endeavors, help an aging parent, develop a business that helps people.

If you get busy helping, creating, inventing, and serving you will quickly understand how fulfilling that act is. The act of serving others lightens the soul. It gets you focused on others, and not on yourself. And in return, a gift is given to you: peace in your heart. You come to realize that YOU don’t matter as much as you think. Life isn’t just about YOU, its also about helping the ones close to you. Find out what THERE concerns are. Have you asked a close friend or client what do THEY need help with?

If you are a business owner, one of your main jobs is to create value. Create solutions for your customers. They come to you looking for answers to their problems. Ask questions. Probe their mind and find out what causes them pain. Find solutions. Provide VALUE.

As a business owner, THAT is your primary role. Create VALUE for your clients. You may have other purposes in other areas of life, but VALUE creation must be a high priority for you in your business.

I’m convinced now that “Find your purpose”, should really be re-labeled to “Find your value”. Too many people are lost because they don’t believe they deserve to exist. They are looking inside for their purpose outside, but it’s an endless search. Find the VALUE inside that helps the world, and you will realize that your purpose is to find that gift.

How to be more grateful for other people’s success

NOTE: This post is tailored towards some of the teachings of the Law of Attraction and Abraham Hicks. If things like upstream and downstream don’t make sense to you, go listen to some Abraham Hicks material on Youtube here  first and then come back here.

Are you having upstream thoughts? Perhaps about someone else doing better than you? Or having more than you? Feelings of jealousy, contempt, revenge, etc?

A few ideas to get you facing more downstream…

Accept that the feeling exists within you

Working on your well-being is your spiritual work. Part of that work is recognizing that good and bad feelings exist. Just recognize them within you first. That’s all at this early stage. Recognition and awareness are the first steps in changing anything.

Every emotion has some use in your escrow

It’s OK to feel what you feel. Really it is. Now, it’s not good forever! Don’t get me wrong. I don’t want you to think that negative, debilitating emotions like the ones you feel, are OK. They are not in the long run. But I can give you some good news about them: they help to build a faster flowing river, even the river you are currently upstream on.

Abraham Hicks says…any emotion, felt strongly makes your river flow faster and inserts more into your vibrational escrow. When you are in the wrong vibration, you are building a vibrational escrow.. an account of energy. Once you turn downstream, that same account becomes available to you to draw and benefit from.

Know that a crazy-loop is forming

The Law of Attraction states that you attract what you feel. So if you feel a negative emotion, you get more of that vibration in your life. For example, someone else, carrying the same vibe can show up. Or an event manifests itself that confirms more of how you feel. Or more negative things happen to you. Have you ever had a friend that always stubs their toe, or gets into car accidents? Yep, that’s the Law of Attraction. What’s really freaky though is that if you aren’t careful, you might start to see the world through that clouded lense. The negative emotions build up resonance and momentum and the next thing you know, everything is headed in the wrong direction. Thankfully, however, the Law of Attraction is universal. It applies to positive OR negative emotions. You get to choose.

Feelings are like a shooting star: the more you look for them, the more they show up.

Realize it’s temporal nature

It’s pretty difficult to feel something all the time. Joy, happiness, sadness, depression, fear.. all these and more are just moments in your life. Feelings get triggered in you by life events, people, new information, and everything else you interact with throughout your life. Feelings enter and leave as you allow them to. They exist for a few minutes, hours, or days, and then dissipate over time as your world changes. Feelings will leave in order to make room for the next feeling entering your awareness. When you feel a bad emotion, just say to yourself.. “this too will soon pass” and remember that just around the corner, something new will enter.

Become the observer and not the participant

This will take some creative work on your part. It may be useful to look at yourself as someone else might see you. Not to judge or make a comment, but simply to see yourself dealing with these feelings from an observer’s point of view. Will you hold that emotion for a long time? Is there a better emotion you could feel? Don’t you know that the other person has been through so much in life? If you can practice this technique it will help you move more quickly from jealousy, to observation, to non-reaction, the next time the same emotion comes up.

Someone else feels the same about you

Someone is jealous of you right now.

OK, I’m taking a big leap stating that, but it COULD be true. Just think about that for a second. Someone else, in some other dimension of your life, feels a negative emotion towards you. They think you have this wonderful joy, freedom, love, money, etc, which they don’t have.

When you realize this, your first reaction may be “I don’t care what anyone else feels about me.” Great. Good for you. Guess what? You know that that person YOU feel jealous about? They don’t care either.

You don’t get to have jealousy/revenge/contempt all on your own. Someone else gets to have it too. And in every case, the target of that emotion probably doesn’t care all that much.

You will never know their story. You are not them.

Lets work on a specific type of feeling for the moment: jealousy. Let’s say you feel jealousy, an upstream emotion, about someone. From your point of view, they have more abundance than you (health, love, joy, etc). Let’s say that’s true. From your incomplete point of view, they have more. Let’s remember one important thing: you are not them. Your story of them is only based on what they LET you see. You will never know their full emotional and detailed story. Do you know if they faced horrific abuse, suicidal feelings, heart break, theft, murder of someone close to them? Do you? Do you know for sure? Definitely not. You will never know everything about them. And more importantly, you will never know what they FELT during their dark days.

Once you realize we are all on journey, and everyone will get what they ask for in this life, jealousy serves no purpose except to make you feel bad. So what if someone has something you don’t have. You can’t make them have less, so that you feel better can you?

Let their blessings be a guide

I used to feel a lot of jealousy and contempt towards others during a recent difficult stage of life. I felt very much that others were having so much abundance and I wasn’t. And with some recent personal work, a lot of introspection, and finally, working on my own joy, I came to a realization that I was looking at things all the wrong way. Happy, joyful people are a blessing, not a restriction. They are here to bring me good vibrations, not to drag me down. Happy people are a blessing, because they are sharing love and light, not to watch me drown while they stare down at me, but to help me find the path back to where they are, so that we can all have one big party. The world is acting to inspire me, not to laugh at me.

When you see something that you want, but don’t have yet, realize that it’s god/source/universe giving you emotional deposits for your vortex. Each good thing you see is a new emotion you get to feel and the more you see it, the more you will manifest it in your world.

The result of letting go is Compassion, and later, Love and Gratitude

The next time you feel negative emotions towards someone, let it go. Run the story in your head.. “I don’t know what they went through..” and then.. “They are a light bulb, showing me the way.. ” and then, if you can.. “I love what they represent in my life. Thank you god/universe/source for bringing so much joy into my life…” See them as a blessing, not a curse.

Nowadays, when I see others, I don’t hate them, I feel great love for them. I pray that they don’t suffer in their journey. I pray that they don’t experience the suffering that I felt. I want them to have more joy and abundance so that I can get that in return. I actively go look for happy people cause I can take advantage of their emotion in my own vortex.

When I first made this shift about other people’s success, at first I felt compassion. But soon after, I quickly moved to Love. And more recently, gratitude. Gratitude that I’m getting to see more positive emotions in my journey. Like a rocket ship accelerating off the launch pad, each new emotion and thing, replicating and inserting itself into my own life into some future moment in time.

(In the picture above: The monkey does not hate the bird cause it can fly, and he cannot)

Stress-induced Alzheimers and Dimentia

My dad has Alzheimer’s and is in a nursing home now. It’s pains me every day knowing he is there, but there really isn’t much I can do about it. I tried everything I could to keep him at home, but ultimately, the choice was taken out of our hands when he got Shingles and had to be hospitalized earlier this year. From the hospital, we decided to put him in nursing care. He fell several times at home and was acting erratically. He would wake up in the middle of the night and start wandering around. Once he got sick, we decided it was best to have professionals take care of him. That probably saved his life.

When I look back at it, I know that stress was a major contributing factor to his condition. 2008/2009 was a particularly stressful year for my parents (and me too). They ran into major financial troubles and family issues (which I won’t go into out of respect for those involved). I was unemployed and happened to be the only one that could provide a solution, so I decided to care for them full time. Once he was diagnosed in 2009 with this disease, I learned everything I could about Alzheimers. I came to the conclusion that stress was a major contributing factor. My dad was never very good with handling stress and anxiety anyways.

To make sure it never happens to me, I started looking for a different approach to life and found a lot of new ideas I could incorporate – meditation, living in the present, doing what you love, smiling regardless of the outcome, getting out of GOOP (good opinions of other people) and more.

I have a much better balance to life now. Do I have everything I want? Not yet, but I approach things differently now. And I’m mindful of stress-inducing people and situations. I don’t avoid stress – you never can. I just react differently to it now.

If you have aging parents, please don’t hand them life changing stressful life changes. Everyone has a good chance of getting Alzheimers and I can tell you from first hand experience that the primary issue in Alzheimers stems from diet. Inflammation inducing foods like non-organic meats, toxins, oils, and unrefined sugars and wheat are the major culprits. I don’t drink pop, don’t use oil in cooking, and remove stressful people wherever I can.

I know our parents are supposed to teach us and show us the way. I just never expected to learn it like this.